In Psalm 69:28, the writer's prayer is for retribution on his enemies. "...let them not be enrolled among the righteous." That phrase jumped out at me not because I want the same for my enemies (if I have any) but because despite my status as God's enemy He enrolled me among the righteous. I was the one hating God, and if I had had the power I would have been seeking to destroy God. Still, he enrolled me among the righteous. He put my name in his book allowing me fellowship with God from now till eternity.
I'm grateful for what God has done for me, and I'm grateful that God has done the same for Ian. Ian is enrolled among the righteous, because he placed his confidence not in his own righteousness but in Christ's. That fact is so much more meaningful to me now, for some reason. I was grateful for his faith before the wreck, but it means so much more now. I want somehow to help him, but I know somehow he must still experience that fellowship. I can rest to some degree in that knowledge.
I still want him to talk to us and tell us what he's experiencing.
Pray for Ian.