I wish that I could talk to you to help you process biblically what you're experiencing. We could talk together and take comfort together from God's Word. You could remind me again of God's sovereign hand as I'm sure you would. I wish as your father I could have done something to prevent this; I wish I could have spared you from this. But, I know that there is One who rules over both of us, and I'm sure you would remind of that fact. He knows every detail of our lives. He knows everything we do and everywhere we go. Nothing is outside the view of His watchful eye. Nothing escapes His notice. Nothing is outside His control - not even a car.
I wish that I could remind you - and know that you hear me - that "in this world you will have tribulation. But take heart; [He] has overcome the world." This was no surprise to God. He knew that we would have this tribulation. He knew long ago what would happen on that road while you drove. Most importantly, though, He took care of you in the most important way before the wreck ever happened by overcoming sin and death and crediting Christ's righteousness to you and securing a future for you in heaven.
I wish I could listen to you wrestling through your questions to embrace these truths (if you are aware of what's happening to you). I know that you would, because I've listened to you before as the Spirit helped you wrestle through to the truth. I watched with awe as the Spirit changed your heart over the years. You grew to have a passion for Him that was amazing to see.
I wish that I could help you spiritually now, but I know that you're safe in the Master's hands. He is taking care of you, and I'm at peace with that knowledge.
Come back soon. We're praying that you would.