i remember sarah telling me that she was shocked to see ian showing affection to someone - she was used to him being the sarcastic life of the party. willing to talk to anyone, but also not shy to say funny things that may or may not be taken well. but he was in love, and this friend that she had known since she was little and had been homeschooled with was actually outwardly showing his love.
that's the ian that i fell in love with. and that's me that he was showing affection to. he would gently hold my hand - as gently as he could considering that he has the fattest fingers in the world. to me it often felt like a vice grip. but it was still so sweet.
but then for a few years, that hand didn't have life. it couldn't squeeze when it wanted to or reach out to find mine.
that's different now.
that same ian seven years ago that shocked sarah is still marked by gentle affection. and he can make that hand move again. since we've been married, one of my favorite parts of my day is falling asleep holding my husband's hand. and one night as i lay there, i realized that this is what i want all of my girlfriend's to have. a gentle husband who is so happy to fall asleep with hands bound.
i'm thankful tonight to be married to a tender heart.