Ian is my best friend. The majority of my thoughts throughout the day somehow involve Ian, especially when it comes to planning or scheduling or who I want to see at 4:30 when I get home. But I'm not sure how many of those thoughts adequately answer this question by Paul Tripp: "how do I daily influence the way my spouse thinks about himself, God and life?" What a beautiful calling and responsibility we both have to each other. When I get up in the morning, I could whine to Ian about not wanting to have a job anymore, or I could read him a verse. When I'm tired at night I could be selfish and just turn over to fall asleep or I could ask him to pray for our marriage. Instead of wasting time online we could go on a walk and see God in his creation. We are to each other the most important relationship for cultivating a tender heart and disposition for the Lord. Praying for just the strength to do that.